Reading the
information on the center for Nonviolence communication website has opened my
understanding to conflict resolution. Recently, I found out that my younger
brother pulled out from school and started hanging around with friends. I was
so furious when I found out the school situation and I was talking to him in a
very loud voice on how he wanted to waste his life. It seems to him that there
is no need to have zeal and hope for the future since my father passed last
year. He feels that he is a grown up person and knows what he wants for his
life and that is not school. He finally came back home because if he does not,
he would loose everything that the family had worked very hard to put together
for him. Unresolved conflict escalates because no one
is paying attention to the conflict or, even if someone is, because no one sets
limits on the fighting, or, lastly, because no one intervenes to provide
protection (www.thirdeye.org).
I could have used the escapist strategy
and let him wander around and see where he will end up. It is good that I reached
out to him. The strategy I would use in
resolving conflict is creating a conducsive atmosphere that would lead to an
open effortless conversation. Another strategy I would use is the cooperative
strategy to benefit relationship, serve mutual rather than individual goals,
and strive to produce solutions (problem solving approach) that benefit both
parties. (O’Hair & Weimann 2009).
References
O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2009). Real communication.
New York :
Bedford/St. Martin's.
The
Third Side. (n.d.). The third side. Retrieved from http://www.thirdside.org/
Chika,
ReplyDeleteWhat a difficult situation. Has your brother worked through the mourning process of losing your father? The strategies you plan to use will provide much support to your brother. An atmosphere where he is comfortable to openly communicate with you will be beneficial for him to begin figuring out what he wants to do with his life. Knowing he has your support through cooperative strategy will let him know he doesn't have to shoulder the heavy weight he must feel all alone. It is apparent you care very deeply for your brother!
Joey
Great post. That is a very difficult situation you face/faced with your brother. I think the ideas that you picked to solve the conflict would help you with the conflict. I think it is awesome how greatly you care for your brother.
ReplyDeleteChicka, Great post..I agree that you are faced with a very hard situation. It reminds me of my youngest son, it seems like they are running and do not realize consequences will always prevail. I agree with your ideas to address the situation, love always prevails. Thanks for sharing.
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